What is the proper invitation wording for divorced parents?

What is the proper invitation wording for divorced parents?

Simple Answer: There is no simple answer for this delicate situation. Please refer to this guide for your particular situation. Remember this can be a sensitive subject so be sure to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings by labeling them incorrectly. You can reword these suggestions based on traditional or casual wording.

Some basic things to know:
If the bride would like all of her parents listed on the invitation, you can list the non-hosting parents (and their relationship to the bride and/or groom) below the request line. In situations where more than one parent is hosting and the bride’s last name is not obvious, it is best to list the bride’s last name to avoid any possible confusion.

Wording Examples

Divorced Parents
Mrs. Sophia Joan Whitley
Mr. James Nathanial Whitley
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Marie Whitley
[etc]

Divorced parents are hosting together
(List whomever is paying for the majority of the wedding first)
Mrs. Sophia Joan Johnson
and
Mr. James Nathanial Whitley
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Marie Whitley
[etc]

Bride’s Divorced, Not-Remarried Mother
(The mother uses a combination of her married and maiden name)
Mrs. Sophia Johnson Wright
requests the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
Sarah Marie Whitley
[etc]

Bride’s Divorced, Not-Remarried Father
Mr. James Nathanial Whitley
requests the honour of your presence
at the marriage of his daughter
Sarah Marie Whitley
[etc]

Mother and Stepfather Host
Mr. and Mrs. Gerald Hugh Richardson, III
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
Sarah Marie Whitley
or
Mr. and Mrs. Gerald Hugh Richardson, III
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of Mrs. Richardson’s daughter
Sarah Marie Whitley
[etc]

Father and Stepmother Host
Mr. and Mrs. James Nathanial Whitley
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of his daughter
Sarah Marie Whitley
or
Mr. and Mrs. James Nathanial Whitley
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of Mr. Whitley’s daughter
Sarah Marie Whitley
[etc]

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